Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Being Resilient!

This was a blog I blogged more than a year ago. I thought the message was strong and worth repeating. If you didn't see it, take a look:

 Hello my over 50's, today I'd like to blog about resilience. That word in itself is not a word  we stop and think about specifically or even often. But by the time we have gotten over fifty, we either have acquired or have not  acquired this quality of resilience. Our being resilient will be present for others to see and easily observed throughout trying times. It will become the label we are recognized by. She has a resilient nature, it may be said of you. Life hasn't  always been a bowl of cherries and it will continue to give us some  pits until the end of it.  As individuals we have  been through many hardships and have suffered many set backs stemming from a death of a loved one, an illness of self or another, a divorce, a financial need, loss of home or other material possession. Just one set back after another. Like the saying goes, its always something! Or if it ain't  one thing its three more. We were born with a certain degree of resilience by nature. Mankind was instilled with the power of recovery to a certain extent.  Within us is that natural ability to throw off trouble. You can recall how a child bounces back quickly or easily from what seems to us as impossible adversity. This is a wonderful quality. You heard it said that what doesn't kill us makes a stronger. That's resilience in motion.  This quality of resilience is so beneficial for us to maintain.  Being  resilient has a lot of hidden benefits such as it promotes our very own longevity. Helps us to be cheerful,  shows our inner strength and even fights off disease. How so?! Well being resilient decreases our stress levels, our attitude is more positive there by warding off sickness and disease. As a result this is a quality we need to work on or improve at this stage of our life. One motivational speaker made this statement: "If you are going through hell, keep going!" In time you will get through it, there will be light at the end of the tunnel and you will see it. So let us develop this quality in a fuller measure. To be resilient is an extraordinary quality to possess. It all starts with our mind. Making the needed adjustments and continuing on in the forward march. Yes, we are not fifty and extraordinary for nothing.  These are credentials we have fully earned through the blood sweat and tears that came with it.We are strong, we are invincible, we are resilient!! I hope you enjoyed this blog, please share what you think!

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Disagreements

Disagreements are going to arise. No matter how hard we try to avoid them with others, it cant be done. From the very beginning of man, disagreements have arose. And disagreements are part of imperfect mans fiber. What is mans fiber? It's our essential structure or character. It's what became inherently inevitable. Like nature, cant remove what's natural.  They cant be avoided, disagreements that is. So since they are going to be there, what can we do?  Unfortunately, it takes about the first fifty years of our lives to accept this. This  is evident because its only after then that we learn how to handle or deal with them successfully them or we no longer care. Up until then it seems we fight for every right or redemption of ourselves personally. This is especially so in relationships. Yes, life has finally taught us how to handle them and to be at peace.  Because its not always necessary that we come to an agreement on everything or matters in life.  We all have our opinions or belief systems  that will effect us as to what we will agree with or not agree with.  How do you deal with disagreements as they arise? Do we really need fifty years? For those of you who are not yet over fifty and extraordinary could benefit from those of us who are. Using wisdom is always the beneficial course to take. Sometimes it's just necessary to accept another's view or perception of a matter. It pursues peace and respect. I remember my mother used to tell us to learn to respect the differences. If we didn't go along with something, the one with the right to decide had the final say. If we learned this then our relationships will be a lot better. In worse case scenario and you felt that you must reach an agreement, then she would say: "Just agree to disagree."  There now we are all in agreement. Disagreements can cause a lot of discontentment in our life if we let it. But as extraordinary people we have moved beyond petty grievances.  By not allowing disagreements to interrupt our peace.  So let us all if we have too for the sake of peace, let's just agree to disagree and move on. If you are in agreement, share your comment!